Memorial for our friend, Diana

Adapted from an anonymous memorial contribution to the internet:

You can shed tears that she is gone, or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and wish she was still with us, or you can open your
  eyes and see she has left.
Your heart can be empty because you won't see her again, or you can be full
 of the affection you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy
 for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her and only that she is gone, or you can cherish her
 memory and let it live on.   
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or you can do what
  she would want - smile, open your eyes, love and go on.  .  .

The Merton Prayer

My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going.   I do not see the road ahead of me.  I cannot know for certain where it will end.   Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I  think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so.  But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you.   And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing.   I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.   And I know that if I do this, you will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it.   Therefore I will trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.   I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.
                                         Thomas Merton   Thoughts in Solitude